Become Happier When You Increase Empathy and Compassion
HOW TO DECREASE ANGER AND SADNESS RIGHT NOW
I am fortunate to have worked for some incredible leaders in my career. One of those fantastic people was Walter. I had just finished my tour of duty in the U.S. Army when I went to work for him at the record label distribution company. For most of my life, I have been a people watcher and an overall curious person. I would observe Walter go out of his way to give a homeless person a few dollars for something to eat. I would see him working long hours, and listen to his stories about his volunteer work at the animal rescue center on the weekends. It seemed like Walter treated everyone with respect and dignity. I had a new girlfriend at the time, and he went out of his way to use his connections in the music business to get us Great White concert tickets and backstage passes. He died in 1997, and I miss him to this day. His funeral was massive, everyone seemed to love Walter including me. He inspired me to become a better person, and to pursue my life’s work of being an executive coach.
In my journey to evolve and increase self-awareness, I have learned that happiness and fulfillment come from personal growth and contribution to others’ lives. The six human needs of psychology are security, variety, importance, love, growth, and contribution. To some degree, everyone requires the first four of the six human needs. The last two needs are developed over time. If you choose to focus on love, contribution, and growth, you will meet all six human needs at the same time. I believe that a great part of Walter’s happiness was his continual growth as a person and his contributions in helping others.
TAKE THE SEVEN - DAY CHALLENGE AND CHANGE THE WORLD
The moment we have empathy for someone, we understand what they have been through in life. Everyone thinks differently as a result of their journey. Empathy and compassion put us in a state of understanding what the other person might be thinking and feeling. It’s about understanding, not suffering with them. In his book, On Becoming Human, Psychotherapist Carl Roger writes about unconditional positive regard. If we can adopt an empathetic and compassionate mindset we have the ability to be nonjudgmental of others. We then have the ability to perceive them in a new way.
“We need to express that same kindness to ourselves. We need to do this first before we can help others.”
In the exercise, we will focus on contribution. Contributing to the outside world is a great way to increase empathy and compassion. You can have a huge impact on the world with small acts of kindness and service.
Over the next seven days, consider five things you can do to contribute or support someone else. This can be a person or an organization that you feel strongly about. Venture outside your sphere of influence and support a person or cause you haven’t been involved with in the past. Giving money to a person or cause is fantastic, but not for the purpose of this exercise. The point is to give of your time and to get to know them
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