How to Get What You Ultimately Want
I want what I want, and I want it now! This would soon be followed by, “I hate it when that happens.” Yet again I made another short-sighted decision, based on what I naturally wanted at the moment.
I started hating myself for my choices of emotions and behaviors and not knowing why I felt that way. I was trying to get a need met and would dismiss what I ultimately wanted in lieu of what I wanted at the moment. Because I hadn’t regularly defined what I really wanted, my values were out of date. I would make personal and business decisions that often times, would take me further away from what I wanted ultimately. I am not saying that I am perfect at choosing behaviors that will get me to what I ultimately want, but I am able to practice delayed gratification more often.
I love to study why some people do incredible things with their lives and appear to be fulfilled and why others are unhappy and self-sabotage. Often times we make a decision based on a temporary emotion. We do this while leading others in chaotic times of business disruption. We can lose sight of our vision and make fear-based decisions that lead to less than awesome outcomes if we aren’t clear about our values. We also do this in making purchasing decisions. We might buy products that promise happiness or buy a new house because our friends have upgraded their lifestyle and we want to keep up with them. Later we feel the emotional hangover of making a decision that carries long term consequences.
We can choose our emotions, that will enable us to get what we ultimately want. We don’t have to allow our emotions to become hijacked by a current situation. We won’t get what we really want until we know our values. Courageous leaders have the ability to balance their emotional and analytical minds and use their intelligent minds, enabling them to quickly adapt and even thrive in uncertain times.
Lurking in the shadows are our values. Emotionally intelligent people re-evaluate what is most important to them and create values that guide their emotions, thoughts, and beliefs. If you don’t know what you value in life, how do you know what beliefs to hold? Great turmoil happens when values aren’t continually redefined, and therefore we work against them.
FOUR QUESTIONS TO ASK YOURSELF TO GET WHAT YOU ULTIMATELY WANT
If we do what we want now, we might not get what we REALLY want later. These four questions will help you to get on track for getting what you really want in life.
1. What do I really want? If you haven’t re-evaluated your values in the last three months, it’s time to look at them again. You can then ask yourself if a natural want will get you closer to what you ultimately want.
2. Why do I want it? Pause and take inventory of your emotions. Are you choosing an emotion based on a disruptive circumstance? What do you really want to be as a person? What do you want that will get you to your ultimate goal?
3. What am I willing to do to get it? First, ask yourself the question, what am I NOT willing to do to get what I ultimately want? A short- term gain can lead to long term loss.
4. What is the cost of not doing it? Ask yourself what the cost is for not taking action. With every passing day, you are losing precious time in creating a strategy to get what you really want.
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