HACK FOR ELIMINATING RESENTMENTS
HOW LETTING GO OF THE PAST WILL SET YOU FREE
At one time or another we have all been hurt. Letting go of the past will set you free. Why do so many people live in the past and let those hurts define them? Believe it or not the reason is that letting go of the past is harder than living in the present because of the unfamiliarity. We become vulnerable when we don’t have the familiar pain of the past to identify with. It can be a very scary place when moving outside of your comfort zone into a new place of uncertainty. Without taking this step however, you will remain stuck in a cycle of getting the same outcomes of the past.
The good news is that you can live a better life without resentments when you let go of the past.
FOUR HACKS TO GET START IN LETTING GO
1. CHOOSE TO LET IT GO
Don’t let yourself become - or for many remain a victim. Having the victim mentality can feel good at first, and even make you feel like you are on the winning team of you - against the world. But, having this self -defeating mindset only creates misery. Forget about the possibility of “fixing” any relationship by holding on to the pain and suffering of the past.
Not to oversimplify your pain but, making a conscious decision to let the past go, will be a huge step in the right direction. Stop the pain loop about past hurts and disappointments and you will become a much a happier person. Make the decision that you choose not to drag around the pain in your life any longer. It is simply not worth carrying it around for the rest of your life. Letting it go is a very proactive approach in healing yourself and relationships.
2. LIVE IN THE PRESENT
Living in the past can bring about depression, anger and resentments. You can never change the past. As hard as you want to dwell on it, the past is now history. Leave that pain where it belongs, in the past. On the other end of the spectrum, living in the future can result in having unnecessary anxiety. A happy and fulfilling life is when you can live in the present. Living in the now and letting go of the past is ideal in being true to yourself. You aren’t missing out on opportunities because of concentrating on the past miseries or future uncertainties. When you live in the now you are accepting the joy and possibilities of the present.
3. LETTING GO OF THE PAST BY FORGIVING
Forgiveness gets a bad rap in the pop culture of today. The media portrays the hero getting retribution for the past deeds of the villain. They would have us believe that by holding onto the past and punishing the villain, the hero will live happily ever after. This is simply not the case. Having an unforgiving heart is like swallowing poison and expecting the other person to die.
Forgiveness is never about the other person. Forgiveness is about you letting go of the past and not carrying the pain around with you any longer. You are choosing to move forward with your life and not letting events or person(s) change the narrative of who you are as a person.
4. PARTNERING WITH A PERSONAL COACH
Partnering with a personal life coach will help you to let go of the past. Your professional life coach will encourage and guide you in the best ways in which to create an action map for obtaining the relationships that you’ve always wanted. This expert will help you to refresh your why, so you can find your purpose and let go of the past events that were painful.
New Mindset Academy will help you to identify your deeper strengths and talents, so you can achieve your goals. Let go of the past and live a happy life now!