HOW TO HAVE A GROWTH MINDSET WITHOUT BEING ALIENATED

HOW TO HAVE A GROWTH MINDSET WITHOUT BEING ALIENATED

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When we stop growing, we die!
 
We need to constantly develop intellectually, emotionally and spiritually. We grow and change physically as we develop throughout life stages. We also grow and change emotionally and intellectually with every experience, as we respond to events and to the world around us.
 
Having a balanced and meaningful life with an abundance of money, good health, and happy and loving relationships has to be cultivated, developed and expanded. Otherwise, it will degenerate. Some people satisfy the need to grow by working out physically or by reading books. Others need to study and learn constantly in order to feel that they are truly growing.
 
If we have an extreme growth mindset, it will conflict with the other human needs of Certainty, Variety, Significance, and Connection.

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One of my top human needs is for growth. As an athlete, I grew into a significant role on the USA road cycling team that I was a member of for six years. As an entrepreneurial leader, I matured in my leadership purpose. Oftentimes throughout my journey, however, my growth was at the expense of personal and business relationships.

Throughout my life, I have been caught up in my own personal development. I lost sight of those people that were most important to me. I learned that connecting and giving to others can be more fulfilling than acquiring knowledge and a wall full of diplomas. There can be so much pleasure in sharing than accumulation.

So …. can you relate to what I’m talking about?
 
Perhaps you’re a leader of a business or you lead your family, or maybe you want a better way to lead yourself. In any event, having TOO MUCH focus on your own personal growth can harm and cause conflicts in your relationships, like it did in mine.
 
I have to say … It can be really confusing!
 
We go to seminars and the guru on stage shouts the importance of growing personally. We get caught up in the energy of the room and take all of it to heart and go home. We express our enthusiasm with our partner and significant others. They look at us and wonder what kind of drugs they served up at the seminar.

I finally realized that the speed in which I was changing and growing was not the same pace as others. I was alienating myself from those that I loved the most.

What am I saying here?
 
I’m saying that going to seminars, reading books, taking a class, and developing your body at the gym are all important activities. But be aware that if you don’t involve others in your journey in some way, you will alienate yourself from the very people that you may be trying to get close to.

HOW TO GROW WITHOUT EXPERIENCING THE NEGATIVE IMPLICATIONS OF GROWTH

I’ve talked about the implications of not being self-aware when growing personally. Being too self-reliant and not tapping into the talents of others can make a micro-managing leader. At home, we can be perceived as overbearing and controlling.
 
YOUR GOAL
 
Consider making a goal to pursue growth while enjoying relationships and connecting with people. Experience joy and pleasure in many ways, not just in learning.
 
WHAT TO DO NEXT
 
Find balance in life by focusing more on others, rather than on your own growth and development. Experience the pleasure of giving and be less reserved in giving priority to love and relationships. Take better care of those you love at home and at work.
 
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