HOW TO FEEL SPECIAL WHEN OTHERS MAKE YOU FEEL UNIMPORTANT
Be Significant Without Comparing Yourself to Someone Else
Everyone needs to feel important and that they matter. Having the need for significance often comes from comparing ourselves to others. In our quest for significance, we become involved in hierarchical pecking orders and questions of superiority or inferiority. We can feel significant because we have achieved something, built something, succeeded at something, or we can seek significance by tearing down something or someone else.
In its positive aspect, significance leads us to raise our standards. But if we are overly focused on significance, we will have trouble truly connecting with others. We can become distanced from co-workers, friends, and even loved ones.
Life Stages Alter Our Need for Significance
On the other end of the spectrum, some people achieve a sense of significance from failure. They feel connected with themselves and with others in being the worst at something or from having low self-esteem.
Whatever the measure of significance, a sense of being important is necessary to all human beings. The quest for significance is really the result of someone seeking love.
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