GET THE LOVE AND CONNECTION THAT YOU DESIRE THE MOST

GET THE LOVE AND CONNECTION THAT YOU DESIRE THE MOST 

​Connecting With Others Starts with Connecting With Yourself

What we value the most determines who we are and what we become. Someone who values security will have a very different life from someone who values adventure. Someone who values togetherness and unity is quite different from someone who values success. There can also be great internal strife when we value significance over connection with loved ones, friends, and associates.

WHAT DO YOU REALLY WANT?
 
Each of us develops a model of the world. Our internal program guides us in what to expect from others, what to expect from ourselves, how we should live our lives, what we need, what we believe, and what we value. When we understand our model of the world, we better understand experiences and if they are a reward or a punishment. We also understand what brings about pain.

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For the most part, we only look at what we value the most when there is pain. Being too dependent on the love of others can lead to feelings of emptiness and resentment towards the most important people in our lives.
 
As a result of the internal programs, we create rules in meeting our needs of connection and passionate love. Have you ever felt that you required love from someone in order to feel “complete?” 

Or, do you sense that you’ll never be satisfied with the way people treat you?
 
Having clarity on what we really want and why we want it, helps us in knowing what to do next. Would you be interested in moving the needle on your happiness meter?

We all have the need for love and connection. How we meet this need varies from person to person. If you are experiencing feelings of emptiness, maybe it’s time to choose new vehicles for getting your need for love met. Break all the rules in how you feel loved and finally get what you really want.

Ask Yourself these two questions and refresh the way you feel connected and loved.

1. What has to happen for me to feel love/connection?
What do you currently do to meet this need? How can you meet this need internally?
 
 2. How can you make it easier to meet the need for love/connection?
What new rules can you make so you can have better connections with yourself
and others?
 
THOUGHTS TO PONDER
 
Think of someone that you feel really connected with. What is it about them that makes you feel loved or connected in a deep way? Do you feel in sync and cared for? Consider modeling their behavior and observe the changes in you and make the appropriate changes.
 
I may not know you but …
I firmly believe that you deserve love and are worthy of receiving it. Make it easy for others to love you and watch your life become transformed.
 
Learn more about what role love and connection has in your life.