SPIRITUALITY

The Ongoing Journey of Transformation

“Transform your pain or you’ll transmit it.” When I first read that line from Richard Rohr’s The Art of Letting Go, it resonated, and I continue to see its depth. Spirituality, is no longer about escaping pain; it’s about learning how to meet it honestly and allow it to reshape me into someone more compassionate, awake, and whole.

My path hasn’t been a straight line. It’s been marked by hard lessons, second chances, and what I call “character-enhancing experiences.” For years, I chased fulfillment through external achievement—building businesses, earning titles, and collecting accomplishments that looked impressive but left me feeling empty inside. Beneath the surface was a quiet ache, a longing to connect with something deeper, something sacred.

Several years ago, what started as an argument over a gas pump became a turning point. My reaction revealed how I still allowed outside circumstances to steal my peace. A close friend challenged me to look beneath the frustration and ask what unhealed part of me was being touched. That moment shifted everything. I began to see that my spiritual life wasn’t something separate from my daily life, it was happening right in the middle of it.

Eric Miller Spiritual Coach, Spiritual Director

Raised in a traditional Catholic household, I knew the rituals of faith but struggled with the contradictions I saw around me. Prayer could feel like both a comfort and a weapon. Over time, I realized that faith used to control others leads to fear, but faith used to transform ourselves leads to freedom. That’s when my understanding of God began to expand.

I stopped trying to fit God into doctrine and started looking for the divine in experience, in quiet moments, in laughter with friends, in the way compassion softens a hardened heart. I came to believe that love, not judgment, is the truest language of the sacred. That belief became the foundation of my work as a spiritual coach and director.

Then, on October 26, 2025, life reminded me again how fragile and holy it all is. My daughter, Ericka, passed away. There’s no way to soften that reality. The grief and the ache are constant. But even in this unbearable season, I can sense God’s presence that is steady. The practices I’ve spent years doing and teaching—stillness, prayer, surrender, are now the lifelines keeping me grounded.

I don’t see this loss as something to get over but as something to live through with awareness. Pain has a way of stripping away illusions and clarifying what really matters. It reminds me that spirituality isn’t a destination we reach when life is easy it’s the way we walk when it’s not.

Each morning, I sit in silence and breathe. Sometimes that’s all I can do. Yet even there, something sacred stirs. The same grace that carried me through addiction and loss years ago is carrying me now. And once again, I feel called to share what I’m learning: that transformation doesn’t mean the absence of pain, it means allowing love to do something holy with it.

Today, I walk alongside others who are searching for meaning in the middle of their own uncertainty. Whether through one-on-one coaching or spiritual direction, I help people notice where the divine might already be at work in their stories. Because I’ve learned that what breaks us open can also become the doorway to something far greater than we imagined.

If you find yourself longing for that kind of connection—tired of striving, yet hungry for peace you’re not alone. The sacred isn’t somewhere far away. It’s here, in every breath, every question, every tear. Sometimes, the journey itself is the answer.

WHAT I OFFER?

Individual

Spiritual Direction

Feeling spiritually disconnected or unsure where God is? I offer one-on-one spiritual direction to help you slow down, listen beneath the noise, and discern where the Spirit is gently leading your life.

Individual

Spiritual Coaching

Feeling unfocused or off-purpose? Spiritual coaching helps you set goals, build rhythms, and take practical steps toward living your values. It’s about movement, accountability, and aligning your life with what matters most.

Group

Spiritual Direction

Feeling alone in your questions? Group spiritual direction offers a quiet circle to listen, share, and notice God together. No fixing—just honest stories, silence, and sacred companionship on the journey.

Group

Spiritual Coaching

Group spiritual coaching brings people together to set intentions, build healthy rhythms, and stay accountable. It’s a space for shared growth—where goals, and real-life action meet in community, not in isolation.